so, friends?
I’m definitely not an expert in friendship. However, I have a few lessons that I feel like I have learned for the current stage of life I am in now. Maybe in a year I can revisit what lessons have changed or what new lessons I’ve learned.
Not every friend is forever, but that doesn’t mean the memories have to be gone.
Do not choose friends who aren’t passionate about their pursuit of Christ.
Your friends shape who you are. Do you really want to be more like that?
Pick friends who are also invested in healing and growing.
If you wouldn’t let a boyfriend treat you like that, don’t let a friend.
Some people can be a ton of fun, but a terrible friend. It’s okay to recognize that.
Some friendships are for certain seasons.
Physical distance will change friendships, but it doesn’t mean the end. Things will be different but there can be a sweetness even in that.
Pick friends who cheer you on in your goals.
Find friends who will point you back to God in your conversations.
If your friend is always in a relationship, it’s a red flag…
Dating changes friendships, but it doesn’t need to end them.
Friendship requires effort from both ends. It cannot be a one-sided effort.
Your friends aren’t people who make you feel bad about who you are as a person.
Find some friends that enjoy the same things as you. It’s not essential, but it will be fun.
Sometimes when you grow, you outgrow a friendship, or you both move in different directions. You can still love and admire that person and the relationship can still change.
Friends should not be content to allow others to continue to mistreat you.
You can love and have grace for a friend who cheats on a partner but recognize that indicates a lack of value for others. Be mindful of how they treat people they claim to “love”.
There is beauty in having friends who are in the same season of life as you.
You shouldn’t have to alter or change yourself in order for your friends to like you.
No friendship is perfect. All humans are broken, and that includes friendships.
You can be lonelier with unhealthy friendships than being alone.
God will provide friends. You don’t have to try to control keeping people in your life.
