An uncomfortable conversation to have, but loving someone with trauma is actually not easy.

The things we say in anger or the comments we make without considering others are things we should handle with great responsibility.

The broken pieces of who we are and our story God can place together intentionally to beautifully reflect His goodness. We are designed to reflect His light into the darkest of this world.

I do believe that a lot of these comments have come from Christians with good intentions, but I think they fail to accurately reflect God’s heart.

So here goes my request to please stop saying:

Tamar’s story is messy.

Acknowledging and harnessing the strategies that the Lord has designed us to need is honoring to the way He has designed us.

If you had asked me this summer what was going on in my life I wouldn’t have had a real answer for you.

There is something that I find deeply intimate about friends who walk through grief with you. Grief is a complex emotion and doesn’t happen in any specific timeline. There is such beauty in the assurance that in Heaven God will wipe away every tear, but while we are here there is a reality that grief tends to linger (and sometimes stays for the rest of our lives here).

You don’t usually consider that spiritual warfare might come in the form of a mouse.

There isn’t an easy way to talk about suicide. There are so many things I would want to say to anyone struggling and I don’t know what to say first. This is my heart for anyone who doesn’t want to be here anymore.

I’ve had a lot of people ask about my experience with endometriosis. Here’s a summary of my past 9 months.